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From the Book of Marriage
باب النَّهْيِ عَنْ خِطْبَةِ الرَّجُلِ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ:
Chapter: Prohibition of Proposing Over Another’s Proposal
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Hadith Number: 2212
اخبرنا ابو الوليد الطيالسي، حدثنا شعبة، عن سهيل بن ابي صالح، عن ابيه، عن ابي هريرة، عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم:"انه نهى عن ان يخطب الرجل على خطبة اخيه".
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade that a man give a marriage proposal over the proposal of his brother.


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Hadith Number: 2213
حدثنا عبد الله بن سعيد، حدثنا عقبة بن خالد، عن عبيد الله، قال: حدثني نافع، عن ابن عمر: ان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم , قال: "لا يخطب احدكم على خطبة اخيه ولا يبيع على بيع اخيه حتى ياذن له".
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "None of you should give a proposal over the proposal of his Muslim brother, nor should anyone bargain over the bargain of his brother until he permits him."


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Hadith Number: 2214
اخبرنا يزيد بن هارون، انبانا محمد بن عمرو، عن ابي سلمة، عن فاطمة بنت قيس: انها حدثته وكتبه منها كتابا انها كانت تحت رجل من قريش، من بني مخزوم، فطلقها البتة، فارسلت إلى اهله تبتغي منهم النفقة، فقالوا: ليس لك نفقة، فبلغ ذلك رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم، فقال: "ليس لك نفقة، وعليك العدة، وانتقلي إلى بيت ام شريك، ولا تفوتينا بنفسك"، ثم قال:"إن ام شريك امراة يدخل إليها إخوانها من المهاجرين، ولكن انتقلي إلى بيت ابن ام مكتوم فإنه رجل اعمى، إن وضعت ثيابك لم ير شيئا ولا تفوتينا بنفسك"، فانطلقت إلى بيت ابن ام مكتوم فلما حلت، ذكرت ان معاوية، وابا جهم خطباها، فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم:"اما معاوية، فرجل لا مال له، واما ابو جهم، فلا يضع عصاه عن عاتقه، فاين انت من اسامة؟"فكان اهلها كرهوا ذلك، فقالت: والله لا انكح إلا الذي قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم، فنكحت اسامة. قال محمد بن عمرو: قال محمد بن إبراهيم: يا فاطمة، اتقي الله، فقد علمت في اي شيء كان هذا، قال: وقال ابن عباس: قال الله تعالى: يايها النبي إذا طلقتم النساء فطلقوهن لعدتهن واحصوا العدة واتقوا الله ربكم لا تخرجوهن من بيوتهن ولا يخرجن إلا ان ياتين بفاحشة مبينة سورة الطلاق آية 1 والفاحشة ان تبذو على اهلها، فإذا فعلت ذلك، فقد حل لهم ان يخرجوها.
It is narrated from Sayyida Fatima bint Qais (may Allah be pleased with her) that she related a hadith to Abu Salama (may Allah have mercy on him), and he wrote it down from Sayyida Fatima (may Allah be pleased with her). She was married to a man from the Quraysh tribe of Banu Makhzum, who gave her the final, irrevocable divorce (the third divorce). She asked her in-laws for maintenance and support, but they replied: "There is no maintenance or support for you from us (because it is an irrevocable divorce after which there is no return)." When this news reached the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), he also said: "There is no maintenance for you, but observing the waiting period (‘iddah) is obligatory. Therefore, move to the house of Umm Sharik (may Allah be pleased with her) and do not stay far from us." (Meaning, when your ‘iddah is complete, come to us.) Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Umm Sharik is a woman whom her Muhajir brothers frequently visit (because she was wealthy and hospitable, and guests would come and go). Do this: move to the house of (your paternal cousin) Ibn Umm Maktum, who is blind. Even if you remove your clothes in his presence, he will not see anything, and do not stay far from us." So she went to ‘Amr ibn Umm Maktum. When her ‘iddah was complete, she came and informed (the Prophet) that Mu‘awiyah and Abu Jahm had sent her marriage proposals. Upon this, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Mu‘awiyah is poor; he has no wealth, and Abu Jahm (is very harsh); the stick never leaves his shoulder. What do you think about Usamah?" But her family did not like (the idea of her marrying Sayyiduna Usamah ibn Zayd, may Allah be pleased with him). She said: "By Allah, I will not marry anyone except the one about whom the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) has spoken." So she married Sayyiduna Usamah (may Allah be pleased with him). (It is mentioned in al-Nasa’i: After marrying him, I was very happy, and other women used to envy me.) Muhammad ibn ‘Amr said: Muhammad ibn Ibrahim said to Sayyida Fatima (may Allah be pleased with her): "O Fatima! Fear Allah regarding what you are saying (i.e., that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said there is no maintenance or housing for a woman given an irrevocable divorce)." He also said: Sayyiduna Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) said about this verse: «﴿لَا تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِنْ بُيُوتِهِنَّ ......﴾» [الطلاق: 1/65] "Do not expel divorced women from their homes, nor should they leave, unless they commit a clear indecency." (Meaning) if open indecency becomes evident to the family, then it is permissible for the in-laws to expel the divorced woman from their home before her waiting period is complete.


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