It is narrated from Sayyida Umm Atiyya (may Allah be pleased with her) that when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) arrived in Madinah Munawwarah, he gathered the women of the Ansar in a house and sent Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) to them. He went and stood at the door and greeted them with salam. The women replied to the salam. Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I am the messenger of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) to you. We said: We welcome and greet the Messenger of Allah and the messenger of the Messenger of Allah. Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: Pledge allegiance to these matters: that you will not associate anything with Allah Almighty, you will not commit adultery, you will not kill your children, you will not fabricate anything yourself and slander anyone, and you will not wail (lament). We said: Agreed. Then from inside the house, we extended our hands forward and he extended his from outside; the pledge was done merely by gesture, without shaking hands. Then he said: O Allah! Bear witness. He commanded us that on the occasion of the two Eids, we should take young girls and menstruating women out to the Eidgah for Eid, and he forbade us from accompanying funeral processions, and also said that attending Jumu’ah is not obligatory for us. Isma’il bin Abdur Rahman says: I asked my grandmother, what is meant by the word {وَلَا یَعْصِینَکَ فِی مَعْرُوفٍ} mentioned in the hadith? She said that by this word, we were forbidden from wailing (lamenting).

It is narrated from Sayyida Umaymah bint Ruqayqah (may Allah be pleased with her), she says: I, along with other women, went to the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and we pledged allegiance to him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took our pledge on the principles stated in the Holy Qur’an, that we would not associate anything with Allah (up to the end of the verse), but the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also said that you are to act upon these conditions to the extent of your ability and strength. We said: Allah and His Messenger are more merciful to us than our own selves. We submitted: O Messenger of Allah! Why do you not shake hands with us? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: I do not shake hands with unrelated women. My taking a pledge from one woman is the same as taking a pledge from a hundred women.

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Amr bin Aas (may Allah be pleased with him) that Sayyidah Umaymah bint Ruqaiqah (may Allah be pleased with her) came to the service of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) with the intention of pledging allegiance to Islam. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: I take from you the pledge that you will not associate anything with Allah, you will not steal, you will not commit adultery, you will not kill your children, you will not fabricate slander against anyone on your own, you will not wail, and you will not go about unveiled in public like in the days of ignorance.