It is narrated from Sayyiduna Miqdam (may Allah be pleased with him) that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say: "Whatever you eat yourself is charity for you, and whatever you feed your wife, children, and servants is also charity."

Narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The best charity is that which leaves the giver self-sufficient, and the upper (giving) hand is better than the lower (receiving) hand. And begin spending on those whose maintenance is your responsibility. Your wife will say: Spend on me or divorce me, and your slave will say: Spend on me or sell me, and your son will say: To whom do you entrust us?"

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) commanded to give charity. A man said: I have one dinar. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Spend it on yourself." He said: I have another one. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Spend it on your wife." He said: I have another one. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Spend it on your servant, then you know best about your own situation."