When Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) saw his son Asim with his grandmother, he harshly pulled him away. Then Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "Leave him." And Umar remained silent.

Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) had a dispute with his wife (the mother of Asim) regarding the child, so Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) gave the verdict: "Hand over the child to the mother." And Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) did not argue about it.

Al-Shabi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) disputed with his wife Umm Asim regarding their son, and the matter was taken to Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him). Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) ruled to hand over the child to his mother, and then said: "His (the child's) maintenance is your responsibility until he reaches maturity."

Hazrat Ikrimah (may Allah have mercy on him) narrates that Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) gave the decision of the child in favor of his mother and said: "Her fragrance, her kissing him, and her gentleness and love are better for the child than you (i.e., the father)."

Hasan (may Allah have mercy on him) narrates that Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) decided in favor of the mother regarding the child and said: "Her fragrance and her lap are better for the child than you (i.e., the father)."

Hazrat Ata (may Allah have mercy on him) narrates that Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) made Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) swear an oath, saying, "Let the boy stay with his mother." So Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) left him with his mother.

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, gave a boy the choice between his father and his mother.

Uthman al-Batti (may Allah have mercy on him) narrates from Abdul Hameed bin Salamah Ansari (may Allah have mercy on him) that his grandfather accepted Islam during the time of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If both of you (mother and father) wish, then give the child the choice." So the father was placed on one side and the mother on the other, then the child was given the choice, and he went towards his mother. Upon this, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) supplicated: "O Allah! Guide him." So the child returned to his father.

Hazrat Abdur Rahman bin Ghanm (may Allah have mercy on him) narrates that Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) gave a young child the choice to select with whom he wished to stay, his father or his mother.

A case concerning an orphan child was brought to Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him), so he gave the child the choice. The child chose his mother and left his uncle. Upon this, Sayyiduna Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "Surely, your mother's poverty and hardship are better for you than your uncle's affluence and capability."