سلسله احاديث صحيحه
Silsilat al-Ahadith al-Sahihah
Being kind to the wife
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 1835, Fiqh-based: ,1505
-" خياركم خياركم لاهله".
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Kabsha (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The best among you are those who are best to their wives."
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 1835
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 1174, Fiqh-based: ,1506
-" خيركم خيركم لاهله، وإذا مات صاحبكم فدعوه".
It is narrated from Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The best among you is the one who is best to his family. When any of your companions passes away, then refrain from mentioning (his faults/evil)."
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 1174
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 285, Fiqh-based: ,1507
-" خيركم خيركم لاهله وانا خيركم لاهلي وإذا مات صاحبكم فدعوه".
Narrated from Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The best among you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family. When one of your companions passes away, do not mention (his faults/evil) about him."
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 285
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 2678, Fiqh-based: ,1508
-" الا عسى احدكم ان يضرب امراته ضرب الامة! الا خيركم خيركم لاهله".
Sayyiduna Zubair (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Be aware, it may be that one of you beats his wife like a slave-girl. Beware, the best among you is the one who is best to his wife."
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 2678
Advice to treat women well
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 2871, Fiqh-based: ,1509
-" إن الله يوصيكم بالنساء خيرا، إن الله يوصيكم بالنساء خيرا فإنهن امهاتكم وبناتكم وخالاتكم، إن الرجل من اهل الكتاب يتزوج المراة وما يعلق يداها الخيط فما يرغب واحد منهما عن صاحبه [حتى يموتا هرما]".
Sayyiduna Miqdam bin Ma’dikarib (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) stood among the people, praised and glorified Allah, then said:“Allah enjoins you to treat women well, for they are your mothers, your daughters, and your maternal aunts. (See that) a man from the People of the Book marries a young and poor woman, and then neither of them loses interest in the other, until both of them grow old and die.”
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 2871
Prophet’s playful interaction with wives
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 131, Fiqh-based: ,1510
-" هذه بتلك السبقة".
Lady Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) says: I was on a journey with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), at that time I was a young girl and not heavy-bodied. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to his companions: "You go ahead." So they went ahead. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to me: "Come, let us race." I raced with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and I outran him. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) remained silent. Later, I became heavy-bodied and forgot about this incident. (Then one day) I went on a journey with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and he said to his companions: "You go ahead." So they went ahead. Then he said to me: "Come, let us race." I had forgotten about the previous race, and since my body had become heavy, I said: O Messenger of Allah! This is my condition, how can I race with you? The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "You must do it." So I raced, and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) outran me. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) began to smile and said: "This is in return for that (previous) victory."
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 131
Abstaining from wives for a purpose
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 3205, Fiqh-based: ,1511
- (كذلك سوقك بالقوارير، يعني النساء. قاله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - في حجة الوداع).
It is narrated from Sayyidah Safiyyah bint Huyayy (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) performed Hajj with his wives. While you (peace be upon him) were on the way, a man dismounted and began to drive the women’s mounts quickly. The Noble Prophet (peace be upon him) said:“Is this how you drive the glass vessels (i.e., women)?”So they continued on, and then the camel of Sayyidah Safiyyah bint Huyayy (may Allah be pleased with her) sat down, even though her mount was the best among them, and she began to weep. When the Prophet (peace be upon him) found out, he came and began to wipe her tears with his hand, but she wept even more, and the Prophet (peace be upon him) kept telling her not to. When she wept excessively, the Prophet (peace be upon him) scolded her and ordered the people to dismount, so they dismounted, even though the Prophet (peace be upon him) had not intended to dismount. She says: The noble Companions dismounted, and it was my turn that day. When the Companions dismounted, the tent of the Prophet (peace be upon him) was set up, and he entered it. She says: I could not understand how I could go to the Prophet (peace be upon him), and I was also afraid that perhaps there was some displeasure in your heart regarding me. She says: I went to Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) and said to her: You know that I would not trade my day for anything, but I give you my turn on the condition that you reconcile the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) to me. She said: Alright. Now she says: Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) took a cloak dyed with saffron and sprinkled water on it so that its fragrance would be fresh, then she dressed herself and went to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and (upon arrival) lifted a corner of the tent. The Prophet (peace be upon him) asked:“O Aisha! What is the matter with you? This is not your day.”She said: This is the bounty of Allah; He gives it to whom He wills. You stayed with your wife. When evening came, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said to Sayyidah Zainab bint Jahsh (may Allah be pleased with her):“O Zainab! Lend your sister Safiyyah a camel.”Because she had more mounts. Zainab said: Should I lend your Jewess? Upon hearing this, the Prophet (peace be upon him) became angry with her and stopped speaking to her and did not speak to her until he reached Mecca, then spent the days of Mina, until the Prophet (peace be upon him) returned to Madinah, and the months of Muharram and Safar also passed, but the Prophet (peace be upon him) neither went to Zainab nor assigned her any turn. She too lost hope in you. When the month of Rabi’ al-Awwal came, the Prophet (peace be upon him) went to her. Zainab saw your shadow and said: This is the shadow of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), and you do not come to me, so who could this (shadow) be? The Noble Prophet (peace be upon him) entered upon her. When Zainab saw you, she said: O Messenger of Allah! (I am so happy at your coming) that I do not know what to do. She says: She had a slave girl whom she used to keep hidden from the Noble Prophet (peace be upon him). Then she said: Such-and-such slave girl is for you. Then the Noble Prophet (peace be upon him) went to Sayyidah Zainab’s bed, it had been removed, so he spread it with his own hand, then had relations with his wife and was pleased with her.
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 3205
Ila (oath of abstention) from wives
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 3505, Fiqh-based: ,1512
- (إن الشهر يكون تسعة وعشرين يوما).
It is narrated from Sayyida Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took an oath of *ila* (i.e., to not go near them) from his wives for one month. When twenty-nine days had passed, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came to his wives either in the morning or in the evening. He was asked, "Did you not take an oath that you would not enter (upon them) for a month?" The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) replied: "Indeed, a month can also be of twenty-nine days." This hadith is *mutawatir*, narrated by a group of the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them).
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 3505
Woman’s nature is inherently crooked
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 3517, Fiqh-based: ,1513
- (إن المراة خلقت من ضلع، لن تستقيم لك على طريقة، فإن استمتعت بها؛ استمتعت بها وبها عوج، وإن: ذهبت تقيمها كسرتها، وكسرها طلاقها).
It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Woman has been created from a rib, and she will never be (completely) straight for you in any way. So if you wish to benefit from her, benefit from her while she is crooked. If you try to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her."
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 3517
Strictness about rights of women and orphans
Numbering by, Al-Albani: 1015, Fiqh-based: ,1514
-" إني احرج حق الضعيفين: اليتيم والمراة".
Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "I declare forbidden and unlawful the rights of two weak ones: the woman and the orphan."
Numbering of Silsilah Ahadith Sahiha by Albani: 1015