(Second chain) The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: There are four practices of ignorance in my Ummah which they will not abandon: boasting about lineage, defaming ancestry, seeking rain through the stars, and wailing over the dead. He also said: If a wailing woman does not repent before her death, then on the Day of Resurrection she will be made to stand in such a way that she will be wearing garments of tar, and over them a shirt of flames will be put on her.

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by a grave and said: This deceased is being punished now because of the weeping of his family over him. Upon hearing this, Sayyida Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said: May Allah forgive Abu Abdur Rahman, he has made a mistake. Allah Almighty has said: {وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَۃٌ وِّزْرَ أُخْرٰی} (Surah Al-An'am: 164) meaning: No bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another. And the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) had said: Indeed, this deceased is being punished now while his family is weeping over him.

It is narrated from Sayyida Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that someone said to her that Sayyiduna Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates this hadith from the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that the deceased is punished because of the weeping of the living. She said: Abu Abdur Rahman has made a mistake; the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) actually said that: The relatives of the deceased are weeping over him, while he is being punished because of his own sins.

(Second chain) Sayyida Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said to Urwah: My nephew! Abu Abdur Rahman, that is, Ibn Umar, has made a mistake in what he heard. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) mentioned a man who was being punished for the crime of his deeds, and his family was weeping over him. By Allah, no bearer of burden shall bear the burden of another soul.

Umrah narrates that it was mentioned before Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) says that the deceased is punished because of the weeping of the living. Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said: May Allah forgive Abu Abdur Rahman, he is not lying, it seems that he has forgotten or made a mistake. The reality is that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by a Jewish woman whose family was weeping over her, and at that time the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: These people are weeping and she is being punished in her grave.

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: Whoever wailing is done over, he will be punished on the Day of Resurrection because of that wailing.

Abu Rabi’ says: I was with Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) at a funeral. When he heard the voice of a weeper, he sent a man to silence him. I said: O Abu Abdur Rahman! Why did you make him quiet? He said: As long as the deceased has not been placed in the grave, he is punished because of this weeping.

It is narrated from Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: When any disbeliever from among the Quraysh died, his family would weep over him and say: The one who fed many people, the one who fought... Because of these words, Allah Almighty would increase his punishment.

It is narrated from Sayyidah Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: By Him in Whose hand is my soul! These people are weeping over him, while he is being punished in the grave because of his sins.

It is narrated from Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Because of wailing over the deceased, he is punished in the grave.